“Go ask your mother.” It’s a phrase many teens may hear from their fathers when it comes to asking for something they want. Sometimes, the answer from mom is a quick no. If you’re ready to start winning arguments and getting more of what you want, for good, follow these simple tips.
Show Your Evidence
If you really want to persuade your parents, you’re going to have to present some cold hard facts. It’s likely that they’ll want complete information about what you’re trying to persuade them of. Do your homework and be ready to give it to them during your argument.
Confidence is key. If you really want something, show it with confidence. We suggest talking slowly and calmly and recommend planning out your argument before you talk to your parents.
Stay On Topic
State your case and stay on topic throughout your entire argument. Don’t bring up circumstances where they have said “yes” before or if they’ve allowed one of your brothers or sisters to do something similar in the past. Keep on point and don’t get distracted.
If the first thing that your parents say is no, you’re probably not feeling calm on the inside. However, to best win an argument you must stay calm. You’re not going to win an argument by shouting.
Part of winning an argument is being a respectful listener. Even if you don’t agree with your parents reasoning, be respectful and let them share their own thoughts before you continue to share yours.
Test Out Your Argument
Before you take your argument to your parents, test it out on your friends or even your siblings to see if they notice any holes in it. They can give you feedback and pose questions for your to answer similar to what your parents may ask.
Contributed by Lauren Topor